ARTICLE  14

HOW TO APPROACH WOMEN

By Gladys Alvarez
Miami, Florida 

When you see a woman you are attracted to, what do you do? Do you stand there and stare, trying to muster the courage to approach her or do you run and hide? How do you approach a woman and not appear desperate. When it comes to approaching women, the majority of men over-think what they want to say which is a mistake. Be confident, it’s that confidence that will attract the women to you.

Forget the one-liners. Pick-up lines rarely, if ever work. Use your surroundings to your advantage. If it’s a hot day outside, comment about the weather. If you comment about the immediate situation it will not seem out of the ordinary, it shows that you are not being desperate, and it opens up the line of communication.

When a woman sees you approaching, don’t hesitate. If a woman sees you hesitate she will know you are not confident in your actions and will be turned-off. Another thing is to keep eye contact as you approach. Keeping eye contact lets women know that you feel confident, and are not feeling desperate about your actions and will be immediately drawn to you.

Try not to fidget. Fidgeting is a distraction which the woman will see as you being uncomfortable. Any sign of discomfort on your part and she will feel uncomfortable as well, making for an awkward first meeting.

Once the approach has been made and the conversation has started, listen. Don’t get distracted with what is going on around you. Women are more attracted to men who pay attention to what they say than one who is more concerned with what everyone around them is doing. Make sure your responses are relevant to the topic at hand because random words tossed out will cause her to lose interest.

Don’t come on too strong. A first meeting should never include the phrase, ‘our future together’. Women will think you are desperate and your goal is to come across as not being desperate. So, keep the conversation to general chit chat. Your stance is important as well. Don’t stand too close and don’t lean into her while you are talking as this will make her feel crowded and overwhelmed. By keeping to your own space and boundries you are showing her that you not only respect her space, but are comfortable enough with yourself.

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